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Saturday, September 22, 2012

Be Nice to Yourself

Hello everyone and I am back from my wondeful holiday and looking forward to sharing my blog with you toay as it is all about Learning to Be Nice to Ourselves.  At the end of the blog I am going to set you some simple action steps to do. So if you want to build up your self-esteem muscle, then why not commit to giving them a go?
If you want some support on your journey, you can also join my Facebook community at!/AmazingCoaching

So let’s get started:
Isn’t it interesting that often we have more patience and kindness towards strangers that we do to ourselves? I am sure you would never speak to other people the way that you speak to yourself?
Most of us don’t even realise when we beat ourselves up with a big stick, putting ourselves down, cringing when we look in the mirror or telling ourselves that there is something wrong with us. We often spend far too much time comparing ourselves to other people thinking we are ‘ Not good enough’ The sad thing is that many of us are so used to treating ourselves this way that we don’t know any different. It is really just a bad habit.
The fact is, we rarely praise ourselves for our achievements or speak lovingly to ourselves on a daily basis.

Get honest with yourself – Do you treat your friends better than you treat yourself?
When is the last time you spoke encouraging to yourself or soothed yourself when you were upset or sad? When did you last give yourself a pat on the back or told yourself what a blooming fabulous person you really are?
Learning to treat yourself with love and respect is the highest gift you can give yourself. Surely you deserve your own love?
Ok, here are few of my favorite action steps for learning to be your own best friend. You don’t have to do them all, just pick one and commit to doing it for at least 30 days. No excuses! As a Life Coach for 10 years, I have heard them all! So, what are you waiting for, get on with it!

Action Steps
• Every morning, commit to treating yourself with patience and kindness. If you can just say a few nice encouraging things to yourself every day then this will start to build up that self-esteem muscle.
• Each evening, write down ten nice things about yourself. Yes 10. No excuses, You can do it and you are worth it.
• Praise yourself every time you look in the mirror. Even a ‘Well done’ for a good day at work is sufficient!
• Treat yourself like you would a five year old child. Give yourself compassion and encouragement. Feeling scared about something? Soothe yourself and tell yourself you will be ok and you will handle it. Who cares if you didn’t get it right first time? Give yourself a break for not being perfect
Have a fabulous week and be nice to yourself!
ps  Did you know I have a new book out on how to love yourself enough to heal yourself from toxic relationships and emotional abuse?  To find out more click here


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  2. Thanks Michael for the great feedback. Much appreciated. Lisa

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  4. What a lovely blog.I do follow the same idea as you in the evening, but rather than praise myself, think of all the lovely things I have seen, experienced or felt during the day.Such as seeing crocus in the garden, listening to the early morning blackbird and so on and so on.Sallyann Phillips

    1. Thank you Sallyann for your lovely post. I will check out your website as well. Lots of love xx