I recently facilitated a fun and amazing workshop with a friend Minda Lennon on the topic of 'I am Woman'
I love running workshops and sharing my work and I always feel that if I can just assist one person- then it is all worth it.
One thing which never seems to amaze me is that the majority of wonderful women that I meet are simply really hard on themselves, setting them selves up with unrealistic expectations and expecting themselves to be perfect. This could be the perfect mother, partner, friend, worker or anything really!
I think we often forget that we are human beings and that it is simply impossible to be perfect. So why do we often feel ' not good enough' or a 'failure' in not meeting perfection? It started me thinking on what perfect is and does it really exist?
If ' perfect' for you means never getting angry, always having enough time for everyone never making a mistake then boy, are you setting yourelf up for self critisism and so many excuses to beat yourself up! Can you see how hard it is to receive your own self love if you are always setting yourself up to fail?
How about we think about changing our expectation to be ' I have done my best'. Seriously, how can you expect yourself to do anything more than your best?
Ok, it may not work out as you wanted but again, that is no reason to beat yourself up. Again, as long as you tried your best than that is perfection enough.
I believe we are in the world to love and accept ourselves, perfection or not. We are all imperfect and life is also about accepting ourselves when we get angry, don't meet deadlines or throw a strop.
So the next time you don't feel ' perfect' , remind yourself you are doing your best and you are human. That is enough. Have compassion with yourself and how about you set your own expectations just to be you and to be happy?