Do they support you or do they drag you down?
Have a think about who you hang out with as they will tend to have either a positive or negative affect on your levels of self-esteem and confidence.
Think about your positive and happy friends - I bet you feel good when you are around them?
Then think about any miserable or negative buggers you have in your life, how do they make you feel?
They are the one's that drag you down with their constant moaning about the fact they never had the opportunities that other people have, or they spend their time putting other people down or being negative. Ummm, we all know a few of these now don't we?
These people drain your energy and bring you down to their level, a million miles away from the level that YOU want to be operating on.Family members can be a lot like this also but you can always choose your friends, you can never choose your family!
So what should you do to make sure that the people who you hang around with empower and support what you stand for rather than bring you down all of the time?
Here are a few top tips from Lisa:
1. You have the power to choose who you hang around with. Ideally you want happy, vibrant and positive people - people who see your magnificance!
2. If you have good friends who are negative and yet you still want to hang around them, make a point of letting them know how you feel – if they are a true friend they will respect you for this. If they are negative from time to time just acknowledge that this is what they are like and block out the negativity. You can also try saying to them ' It seems like you have been feeling negagive for a while now, perhaps you could do something to change this?'
3. The same can be said with family. Your more mature family members have behaviours that have been conditioned for years and years and from different eras. Appreciate where they have come from and as in number 2 above, elicit and select the information that filters through to your brain.
4. When I feel myself being dragged down by others, I often turn my body away from them slightly and put my hand over my solar plexis. This stops you taking on the negativity.